Rejection stings. And depending on the burn level, it can be a quick pang or a lingering pain that doesnâ€™t seem to go away. It may not be what you want, but sometimes, itâ€™s just what you need. Welcome it. Yep. With open arms.
Here are 6 reasons why you need to embrace rejection.Â
To Advance Your League
Call it natural selection, survival to the fittest, whether it be a job or school application, or your dating life, competition is imminent. Rejection sets barriers from those who can elevate and those who do not.
This could mean that someone exceeds you physically, intellectually, socially, financially, or even, spiritually. If you are getting rejected, that means youâ€™re pushing barriers. Youâ€™re flirting with different levels. Take from that person of caliber- exposure And insight, then move on, and prepare for your next shot.
To Wake Up
Sometimes it takes that heaping serve of painful rejection mixed with heartbreak, soaked in self-deprecation, and sprinkled with insecurity…To awaken. And change yourself. For good.
To Seek Internal Validation
Itâ€™s very easy to nitpick the gory details of a break-up, a fight, or remnants of that last conversation on WednesdayÂ 3.AM. last February. Itâ€™s tempting to play the â€œWhat-ifâ€� game. Rejection nips you in the a**. Hard. And you can either sit on those thoughts.
or you can remember you still have sweet fine a** and a bad one.
Maybe youâ€™re a player. You go on dates like how people go on a shopping spree- addictive and novelty-seeking (Guilty). Or maybe, you donâ€™t. You get rejected very often. Either way, rejection is a stringent motivation to Develop your outlook and approach to dating. You need to humble it down if you want to win the heart of someone genuine. Alternatively, charm it up goody-two-shoes.
The statement that rejection is a blessing shouldnâ€™t be underestimated. â€œYouâ€™re the best thing I never had.â€� â€œIâ€™m the best thing you never had.â€� Canâ€™t sum it up more unequivocally than Beyonce.
Humans want to be loved. But they also. Want to love themselves. Fight for the love of yourself as much as of others. Then it becomes a win-win-win.
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